There’s no such thing as a perfect parent, but research has shown there are things you can do to increase your chances of raising a happy, healthy, and well-adjusted child. According to experts, a few of the most important things you can do to help your child include:

  • Making sure your child has a healthy dietToday, 1 in 3 children in the US are obese, which is closely linked to serious diseases later in life. Healthy eating habits should begin at birth, with parents limiting a child’s access to processed foods. Research shows that children fed healthier diets early on have slightly higher IQs, while those with heavier junk food diets have slightly lower IQ.
  • Reading to your child at least three times a weekMany studies have shown that children who were read to (even newborns) have a larger vocabulary than other kids their age. There’s also a direct link between how many words a baby hears each day and language skills. Experts say to try to aim for at least three times a week.
  • Limiting televisionThe American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that children don’t even start watching TV until they turn two years old, and after that their time in front of the tube should be limited to two hours or less a day. Research shows that children who watch four hours or more of TV per day have lower grades, read less, and exercise less.
  • Being consistentExperts all agree: Children need structure. Setting mealtimes, nap and bed times, and rules not only lets them know what to expect, but also makes them feel safe and secure.
  • Setting a good exampleWho’s your child’s number one role model? You! Parenting experts say that what you do is even more important than what you say. So if you don’t want your kids to hit one another, then you shouldn’t hit them. The same goes for any other bad behaviors, such as smoking, drinking and drugs, yelling and being disrespectful to others.
  • Spend regular time together as a family—Spending time together, even just during mealtime, has many proven benefits. It increases communication and bonding with your children. Studies show that children and teens spend consistent time with their parents do better academically and have lower rates of drug, tobacco, and alcohol use.


  • While there is no such thing as a perfect parent, there are things you can do to help raise a healthy and happy child.
  • Eating a healthy diet and reading to your child often can boost your child’s health and intellect.
  • Children need consistency so they feel safe and secure on a daily basis.
  • The ultimate role model for your child is you, so watch your words and your actions carefully.

Last reviewed by Eva Benmeleh, PhD. Review Date: September 2020


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  5. National Institutes of Health. Shape Your Family’s Habits.
  6. Lisa G. Smithers, Rebecca K. Golley, Murthy N. Mittinty, Laima Brazionis, Kate Northstone, Pauline Emmett, John W. Lynch. Dietary patterns at 6, 15 and 24 months of age are associated with IQ at 8 years of age. European Journal of Epidemiology, 2012; 27 (7): 525.
  7. The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse (2010). The Importance of Family Dinners VI. Columbia University.


  1. Just be confident in yourself and if your ever doubting yourself ask your kid to give u a mommy report and yal talk about how your doing, that is of course if your kid can talk and understands.

    1. Like the idea of a mommy report! Especially with preschoolers, who can verbalize their feelings and are always honest. 🙂

  2. I do at least half of these things listed but the things I don’t do doesn’t seem to affect my son, he’s a happy healthy 5 yr old. I am the softy tho bc I let him get away with some stuff but when I do get after him, if he ever cries I make sure to talk to him and let him know y I got mad at him and that I still love him. No matter what I say or do he still says I’m the best mom and I make the best food even if it just heating up stove food. So I would say overall I’m proud of myself bc my son and fiance let me know I’m doing a good job.

      1. Thank you! We are all good parents. I dont think any of us think to themselves “i am going to have a baby and be a crappy parent.” Right? Some of us may slip and priorities may be different, but we all try. Ateast I know that I do! Even harder when I slip.


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