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Daddy, why don't you have to wear a shirt?

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Daddy, why don't you have to wear a shirt?

So my 3yr old daughter asked my why I’m “nakie with your belly and private parts out.” Meaning I was wearing only shorts but no shirt, and my “private parts” we’re my pecks (that’s right; no man boobs here!). My reply of saying that boys don’t have to wear shirts did not sound like an adequate answer to me, and quite frankly, kind of unfair from her perspective. Can you tell a 3 yr old that girls have breasts (or will one day) and have to keep them covered up, while their male counterparts can run around all day shirtless? What would you say to your daughter? Nudists need not reply…

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  1. Having two young boys, you’re on your own with that one. All my boys want to talk about is potty words, guess I have it easy. I do have a question. A friend shared last night how his wife just became pregnant with their first one on the way. I was reluctant to inform him how having children changes everything. I must have heard this expression a million times when we had our first one on the way. I had no idea what it meant, so I was uncertain to pass along this bit of information?

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    1. Haha, potty words… My daughter names her poops! For your question, honestly, I never know the best answer for that. We had a particularly “sleepless” first year but some experiences are pure bliss for others… I tell people the truth; I had a motorcycle and a boat, and now I have neither. It was purely my choice (maybe not the motorcycle) to sell them because after working all week, I really felt terrible and guilty if I went fishing on the weekend while I should be at home with my baby. Now that she is older, we go out on a canoe and plan to get more of a family boat in the future. I say this: life is going to change, but life isn’t about you anymore, it’s about your family. It’s different, but I wouldn’t change it for anything. Plus, most of that change is when the kids are young. Once they grow up you can enjoy all of tho activities again. Do you take your boys fishing or anything other than the park/playground?

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    2. You make some valid points, Brad. Tough truth how life no longer centers around us and our needs. At the same time, certainly a beneficial and rewarding sacrifice we make to put our families first. Helps us mature and grow when we consider another above ourselves. You also hit on one issue numerous fathers struggle with: guilt. Part of fatherhood is navigating this emotion. Always wondering whether we have done enough with our children. Just like yourself, I never want to regret not having spent enough time with my kids. To answer your question, no not fishing yet. They love to swim and visit the science museum. They do love to spend time in my brother’s ski boat around the lakes in Winter Park, FL.

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