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Date Nights?

Date Nights?

I’m curious – how often do you REALLY have date nights since the kids were born?

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  1. For a long time never, because of a new baby and crazy work schedules! Starting this summer though we tried to be better, and have been pretty good at getting out about every 3 weeks. It’s been fun to have these dinners and time together to look forward to. What about you?

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  2. I honestly wish we had them more often and was just talking to my husband about this. The issue is that we don’t live close to family so we have to hire a babysitter which can get expensive. Luckily, I have found two wonderful young girls who live close by and don’t charge an arm and a leg so we may try to start doing them once a month.

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    1. We both work crazy hours so we do a lot of “home” date nights. Which honestly suck! But then again – we are always too tired. Such a catch 22!

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  3. I actually would love to get in on this conversation! My husband and I have only on a few occasions gone out to do something without our son (who’s 18 months old now). We have taken a half day off of work a couple of times to celebrate birthdays or things with each other while our little guy was at school and have had a few short nights out when family was visiting, etc. The thing that we talk about a lot is more that we don’t really feel a NEED to have date nights at all. We carpool together to and from work, we spend most of our time together on the weekends and really enjoy being with our son. We feel like we can have as good of a time together in our living room as we could out at a restaurant (not to mention saving the money that we would have spent on a babysitter). Are we total weirdos? Is there something magical about being out on a date that makes a big difference?

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    1. You are not weird at all! In fact, many parents report feeling “forced” to leave their babies when well-meaning family and friends insist they go out. I think it’s all about your instinct, and if you feel like your relationship could use some TLC via a nice dinner out, don’t feel guilty doing it. By the same token, if you are just as happy watching a movie at home and that counts as a date, then do that, too! The key is to address your needs and follow your gut!

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      1. It’s nice to know that it’s not crazy to feel pressure about it! I think we’re good about sensing when we need some time away and now I won’t feel so “guilty” when we don’t have weekly date nights like some of our friends 🙂

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    2. Good for you! You sound like newlyweds! I just personally like to go out once a month, just not happening unfortunately. But I do like wine on Friday’s or a good game of Wii every once in a while too!

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  4. My wife and I turned this into a monthly budget item to ensure we go on at least one “dedicated” date per month. We have to budget this because we have no family nearby and have to hire a babysitter each time. Sucks paying that much!!! But it’s worth it for the relationship

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