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Do you discipline other people's kids?

I read an interesting blog post about whether it’s okay to discipline someone else’s kids. (Think a verbal, polite prompt and not a physical discipline like spanking.) Does it bother you when someone else disciplines your child? See the two points of view here, sparked by a Kourtney Kardashian tweet: http://www.rageagainsttheminivan.com/2014/02/why-im-okay-disciplining-other-peoples.html
It doesn’t bother me at all, if it’s done with patience and kindness. I actually appreciate the help and the chance to teach my daughter to respect other adults.

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  1. I’m ok with a different viewpoint as long as it’s respectful and done in a kind manner. I in turn will only “discipline” if a child is in my home and breaking our rules. Example, we are not allowed to stand on the couch or kitchen chairs. Several of my friends allow this in their own homes, but when their children do this in my home I say “butt down please! No feet on the furniture. Thank you!”

    It’s important to maintain consistency, and if I didn’t do this, my daughters would follow and jump on the couches in a heartbeat! Great tweet though by Khloe…I missed it!

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    1. Great point… I think when it comes to following your “house rules” it’s a different story- more acceptable AND more necessary.

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  2. I am totally ok having other people discipline my child if it is done in the appropriate manner. Children need to learn to respect all adults, not just their parents. Plus, if I happen to not see my child misbehaving it’s great to have them help out. I will say things to my close friend’s kids if needed. We help each other out and I’m completely ok with that.

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    1. I agree Shelley! Just as if my child did something obviously wrong and I didn’t see it, I would want a parent to let me know so I could address it or have them say something directly. This isn’t like that Mad Men episode where you are hitting someone else’s kids…it’s just about respect.

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    2. I agree Shelley! My friends sometimes make a greater impact than me!

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  3. In certain situations I think it could be OK as long as it’s someone close to your children but I see it differently. I would rather be told what my child has done and deal with it myself because everyone has different discipline methods and I may not agree with some of them. If I am around when it happens I would rather handle the situation myself.

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  4. And I have always been one to not even try to do spline someone else’s child because sometimes it can turn out bad and blow up in your face depending on the parent!

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    1. Good point! You never know how someone else will react.

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  5. I don’t mind at all if someone else (even a stranger on the playground) disciplines my son as long as it’s warranted and done the right way (stressing the no hitting trend of this whole thread). Children should respect all adults. Honestly, even at just 19 months old, my son already listens better to pretty much anyone who’s not me. But that’s another story… 😉

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