Feminism gone awry

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Feminism gone awry

Wow…that’s pretty much the only word I have for this blog. I honestly don’t want to dwell on the author’s hateful comments or really even give her the time of day and encourage her bad behavior (sorry, that’s the Mommy in me coming out), but I just couldn’t help sharing it. From the comments she’s receiving, it seems like she’s being chastised pretty thoroughly already, but in my opinion, negative attention is still attention, so she’s probably just tickled to get any responses, however opposed to her views they may be. I’m sure I don’t even have to ask, but what do you moms and dads think?
http://thoughtcatalog.com/amy-glass/2014/01/i-look-down-on-young-women-with-husbands-and-kids-and-im-not-sorry/

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  1. My personal thought- on this blog and others like them- is that women succeed when we stop judging one another. Real feminism is about supporting women! Don’t assume a woman is insecure about staying home or that she’s doing it because she feels like she has to. It’s a choice each of us makes, like everything else in life, and one many women are thrilled with. People define success differently. It’s close-minded to assume that what you believe defines a successful life is what someone else thinks. I think it would serve women well if we could just stop judging each other. Why should we expect men to respect us when we don’t even respect each other!? SAHMs, WAHMs and working moms- you are all awesome. Being a mama is tough enough without being judged for every decision you make.

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    1. YES! I said something similar to a group of moms not too long ago about supporting each other as moms and not getting nasty about the different decisions we make about pregnancy, birthing, and then raising our children. We all just do what we think is best for our families. The same goes for women in general. We do what is best for our families, whether our families consist of just ourselves or our husbands and/or children. Why do we have to judge, belittle, and butt heads with each other over our different choices? Why is it so awful to choose to have children and then to choose to stay home and raise those children ourselves if we can financially afford to do it? I’m pretty sure the human race would cease to exist if at least a few of us didn’t continue to procreate! Haha! And if we’re still having children, someone has to raise them to be a benefit to society, so why not the mothers if they are willing and able to do so? I seriously could go in circles forever over this topic. No, laundry is not as important as being a doctor. But someone does have to do it. And someone has to raise the next generation to be better than the last.

      Side note: I would love to just know what the author’s own mother has to say about the blog…just for curiosity’s sake. 😉

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  2. Double WOW! The woman who wrote that article seems like the dumbest, most narrow minded individual I’ve had the displeasure of reading from. She is clearly neither a wife or mother, and has no respect for the one who gave birth to her. She praises high salary working women, but does she not realize that it was also women (mothers!) that gave birth to those doctors and CEOs? Oh, and by the way, staying home with the kids all day, cleaning house and cooking is much harder than a day at the office. You know why men don’t complain about the troubles of keeping up the household? Because a lot of them don’t partake in it! Many of them go off to work, then off to golf, cards, or beers with the guys. My personal measure of success is how many people attend your funeral, and that mostly comes from being a great parent, spouse, grandparent, or friend; certainly not the hard working a-hole who got promoted at work. No thanks for raising my blood pressure…

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  3. I wanted to try and play Devil’s Advocate for this blogger. Because actually, I tend to agree with her, in small part: “You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids.”

    In my 20’s, when I was single and childless, the world was my oyster when it came to my career. I could do anything necessary to get ahead, simply because I could selfishly focus on JUST me and MY career. As soon as someone else enters your picture, ALL of your attention can’t go towards your career anymore. And if it does, your relationship (with your parter or children) suffer. I’ve learned (for me, personally, anyway) that life isn’t fair and you really can’t have 100% success in both at the same time.

    That being said, the rest of her spiteful rant just sounds like something that came out in a burst of anger and jealousy, doesn’t it? It’s so needlessly vicious. I agree with Stephanie, that one person’s idea of success should not be a blanket definition for EVERYONE’s success.

    And to say that doing laundry isn’t as important as being an engineer is just ignorant. It’s just not what is considered to be a white collar job. What about the men (and women) who literally dig ditches for the sewer system? I’m assuming she doesn’t think they’re as important as white collar engineers and doctors, either. Well guess what? Without them we’d all be swimming around in poo and your pretentious corner office would be a non-issue. Without those types of people doing their “not as important” jobs over the centuries, you wouldn’t be able to GO to school and get the degree that allows you to look down on your peers.

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    1. My brain couldn’t decide whether to LOL or “Amen to that” to this sentence: “Without them we’d all be swimming around in poo and your pretentious corner office would be a non-issue.” 🙂

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  4. After being a working mom for several years, I am now fortunate to be able to stay at home with my second child. I can honestly say that I work harder now than ever before. I never have “down” time, whereas when I was working I did. I don’t even get to go to the bathroom without being followed. I clean, do laundry, change diapers, etc… Someone has to it, and to be honest I’m so thankful it is me. This woman is simply ignorant and the best thing people could do is ignore her. Giving her no attention/feedback would probably drive her crazy-lol 🙂

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  5. Oh, so fun to read!

    I will go out on a limb and say in my pre-kids years, I will admit I was prone to her line of thinking. I thought a lot of what she said – that women who gave up careers to have kids were kind of selling out. And then I had a kid, and I cut my career back quite drastically to be home with him. I realize I had no clue what I was talking about, and I can fully admit it!

    Now I see the other side, and I realize my opinions were based on youth and the result of an upbringing that wanted to ensure I put education first. Not bad things necessarily in my opinion, since it is what got me here today.

    So, maybe she will change if she meets the right person, and maybe she won’t. Either way, I agree with Stephanie – true feminism IS about the choice to do either. And those mommy wars? They are only a war if you subscribe to it. These sorts of articles I think you have to shrug off and say, “Well, to each their own, but until they walk a mile….”

    (I will say the one thing she does 100% get wrong is that moms will never be important as being a doctor. I am both, and I say everyday anyone can do my job at work, but no one can raise my son like I do! Raising a human who isn’t a jerk in my opinion is quite frankly THE most important job, since they will be the ones in charge one day……!)

    But if you want a nice response 😉 go here:
    http://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2014/01/i-feel-sorry-for-amy-glass-and-im-not-ashamed/

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  6. This got my blood boiling. I wish I hadn’t wasted the few minutes of my life to read this garbage. I agree, I’m sure she’s loving the attention and accomplished what she set out to do. BUT, I’d watch my back if I were her.

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