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Helping School Aged Child to FOCUS

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Helping School Aged Child to FOCUS

I need advice from parents with school aged children. One of our boys (9) has a horrible time focuses – and not in an ADHD way. He some times lives in his own little world and therefore doesn’t follow instructions at school – which is starting to get him in trouble. He is smart, so it’s not hurting him academically – yet. But his teachers find his behavior disruptive because they have to tell him the same thing three times before he reacts.
I am trying to trouble-shoot what it could be. I am going to have his hearing tested – to rule out that he simply cannot hear the teachers. Any other ideas?
He is not defiant, rude or mean. He is heart broken when he gets in trouble – because he’s not a “bad” kid. He just lives in his head some times.

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  1. I think maybe you should speak to the teacher and explain the situation and how he doesn’t mean to rude it’s just something he’s working on, to just bear with you and if group instructions aren’t working well, then try to explain to him one on one (i needed that sometimes) cuz they’re teachers and part of their job is making sure students learn and if one on one is what it takes then the teacher should do that.

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    1. Good point, Kayla. Hopefully the teacher realizes it breaks his heart and isn’t misbehaving on purpose.

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  2. A friend of mine is going through this now with her son and the result of many conversations and eventual testing is that he is gifted and bored to tears. His mind wanders because the material isn’t holding his attention.

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  3. I wonder about sensory issues? Do certain things bother him like grass, sand, certain smells, foods, changes in routines, loud noises? We are all on a continuum of processing the environment around us and sometimes we can be either too sensitive or not sensitive enough to react in ways that other people do. Has he always been a dreamer? Is this only happening at school? Does he seem to be smarter or does he understand information differently than other kids in his class? Does he get along with the teacher? Is he spacy at school during specific subjects? These are some questions to consider before figuring out your next step. Good luck!

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  4. Great suggestions in the feed! I would also add that ADHD can sometimes be missing the “H” – hyperactivity! Many children and teens (hello, girls!) are inattentive only – so we want to make sure we don’t miss these kids. Screening for ADHD is a simple process that involves teacher and parent questionnaires that your pediatrician could easily do for you. I also encourage you to remember that not every kid with ADHD needs meds so don’t worry that screening him will necessarily lead to medication! Good luck!

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    1. Sara – thanks for your advice. I spoke with our pediatrician last week – and he said the exact same thing. We are going to test his hearing and run some blood work first – to rule out some of the “medical” possibilities – and then we may get him tested. However, we were told that a mild case won’t need medication – so now I am looking into different strategies we can use at home – and also at school to help with his focus. Our pediatrician said exactly what you just said – that it is the “day dreamers” that tend to be overlooked and that it is important to catch them before they get behind. THANK YOU for your input! It means a lot to me.

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