How do I know if my kid is gifted?

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How do I know if my kid is gifted?

I’m the parent of two boys (my older one is already in college) who were both identified as gifted. I didn’t think too much about it in the beginning, but I’ve become a big believer in identifying high-IQ children and making sure they are provided with services and/or strategies to effectively deal with life and their own unique special needs. I’d love to hear from other parents about their experiences with gifted children, including identifying them early, and parenting methods that work for gifted kids.

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  1. My mother-in-law used to teach gifted kids, and is now a principal. I know she recommends that if you think your child is gifted to have them tested early so they can be identified, as many are labeled as lazy or troublemakers when they are young – when really they are just bored!

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    1. Agree with this! In our school system, they typically test children in 1st grade for gifted. They used to test in kindergarten, but pushed it back a year to first. Once a child is designated gifted, they have access to resources that can work with their unique learning styles and prevent them from falling through the cracks.

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  2. I have a child in the gifted and talented program at his elementary school. He was given a reading test in 4th grade and i was told he was passed the 12th grade level. He is always learning and loves to argue his point of view on things. They only go to the gifted and talented program 1 time every 2 weeks. It doesnt seem like enough. Should i be doing something else for him?

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  3. Hey, Ivonne. It sounds like your son is getting services delivered in a pull-out model, instead of a dedicated gifted program. It really depends on a state-by-state or even county-by-county basis how different school systems deliver services to kids who’ve been identified as gifted. Has your son been identified as gifted? Where we live, our school system has magnet programs that are designed for gifted children, so our son doesn’t attend his local school but we commute to another school for a program. It’s hard to say without knowing the specifics if any particular program is meeting all of your son’s needs. I would, however, recommend getting a few books on giftedness, and especially on gifted boys. We used a book called Smart Boys, and it was really helpful. I don’t think boys in general are very well served by the way most schools are set up, and gifted boys in particular face challenges. Once we understood the traits that are common among gifted boys, we started working at home on behavioral and social skills that will support his intellectual progress. As a last thought, this was a major epiphany for me as the parent of a gifted child: it turns out that academics and intellectual development were actually the least of our concerns. That stuff comes pretty naturally to many of these kids. Instead, the social and intrapersonal realm is more challenging and is where we focus most of our energy. Good luck!

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  4. My son will be 3 yr old this coming Jan. He is already starting to read words on his own and speaks full conversations with adults (on adults level at times). I have never really have had to “teach” him anything. At 18 months old he told me that he was no longer a baby and did not need diapers. There after- he always went to the bathroom on the toilet and NEVER had an accident. My concern is there is a very thin line between genius and high functioning autism. My son, Noah does not play with other kids his own age. He likes older kids or adults. At home on a typical day you will find him stacking up toilet paper rolls “making an ice castle” or putting dixie cups all over the floor and filling them up half way full of water. His outburst are unusual- He could be the calmest kid ever but if someone says hi to him he will turn into the devil and yell “get away! don’t talk to me!” and then he will start to cry (a true cry). Its very weird. Any help or advise would be great. I have taken him to a psych for eval and of course in the 45 mins they see him- Noah is this perfect “typical” toddler.

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    1. Lisa, You did the right thing taking him in for an evaluation. There are identifiable behaviors and characteristics of high-functioning autism–it would be hard for a kid to “fake” not having autism if they are being evaluated by a professional. Still, it’s true that gifted kids can have behaviors that are unusual. It helped us to think of giftedness as a special need … yes, it’s a special need that most parents want, but it is a special need in its own way. Maybe look for ways to teach your son coping behaviors and methods that work for him to relate to other kids and keep his outbursts under control. Ultimately, autism or not, you want to find what works for him and then help him learn those behaviors. At least in our experience, we spent much, much more time working on questions like this as opposed to teaching letters or facts, which we never really had to do.

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  5. I read this article this morning after serious contemplation that my toddler may be gifted. She is a wonderful, sunny personality that has a never ending thirst for learning something new. She also knows how to press our buttons and divert the system. She is 3 1/2, knows all of her letters, numbers (counts to fourty), etc. What really surprises my husband and I is her ability to engage in an intellectual conversation utilizing a vocabulary that is clearly out of the ordinary. I sometimes am simply amazed at her uncanny ability to recall even the smallest detail or remember a story that I had told her over a year ago when she was 2. She is the proud older sister of our youngest daughter whom is 14 months old who seems to be also following in the footsteps of the older sis. My question is related to behavior and that even despite her being 3 1/2 and reaching “milestones” as quoted in any parenting book of choice, I want to know if it is standard for children with higher IQs to generally be more disobedient. We have had an increasingly difficult time understanding how to discipline her, still being affective, and wonder if it is because she is frustrated with us and acting out. Sometimes she is so tapped out (she won’t sleep) that she literally falls apart and cries which breaks our hearts. My husband and I are both self-professed geeks and school came easy to us. Apparently I was just like my oldest child when I was young and am reminded constantly by my parents. We have an appointment with her pediatrician tomorrow to get a game plan and then a parent teacher meeting with her daycare to ensure we are all aligned. We love her implicitly and want to help. Is there anything else we can do?

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  6. I agree with identifying gifted children as early on in their academic career as possible. These individuals are faced with unique learning styles and abilities, and having the services and professionals to work with early on offers them the best opportunity for success. Children who are not identified can struggle in many areas. Social issues can arise when they feel like they don’t fit in with their peers. Behavioral problems can occur when children are not challenged and get easily bored in class. Some children are mislabeled as lazy or inattentive when they are not progressing with the rest of the class. As the mother of 3 gifted children I have experienced several of these challenges and then some. One of my biggest challenges has been finding age appropriate reading material for my boys. They are ravish readers and have a very high lexile. My oldest had read all the Chronicles of Narnia the summer going into 1st grade. It has been difficult to find books on their reading level that was not full of inappropriate content. I have found myself having to read many books to check for content ahead of them in order to rule out the book and/or to be prepared to have discussions with them on what they were reading and how they were integrating that material into their young developing brains.

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  7. Hello, my son Robert is highly intelligent and also a true athlete. He started learning how to read at 3 months old. He could read and identify over 100 words by the age of one. From the age 1 1/2 and 4 1/2, Robert has read for the summer reading programs. Last year he read over 200 books in the summer library program. He is in Pre-K and is reading at a 1st to 3rd grade level. His Pre-K Montessori teacher just told us that he is showing signs of a photographic memory. I was aware of this early at about the age of two. He can identify and draw our solar system. He identifies well over 100+ dinosaurs and 100+ sea creatures. Robert reads to all of the school children at his after school care including the fifth graders. He generally know more about the solar system and the dinosaurs than the a full room of educated adults. I can go on with shapes, colors, patterns, calendar, clocks, geography, etc. He can count well into the hundreds and also backwards. Robert is also an athlete. He has taken gymnastics from the age of 1 1/2. He has run over 25 one mile races by the age of four. He swims over 12 laps at the pool. He was riding a bike with no training wheels at the age of three. His art is truly amazing. Robert is know on you tube as Amazing Robert. As his parents, we would like to know how to have Robert identified as gifted child. We also are concerned with Robert’s education path. Any ideas on identifying high-IQ children and making sure that he is provided with services and/or strategies to effectively deal with life and his own unique special needs?

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  8. hi, i am a parent in Beijing. I think my kisds are quite talented, and wonder whether there is professional institution in Beijing conducting evaulating and helping on planning the steps to take. thanks a lot!

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  9. Can someone pls kindly comment. My child will be 3 yrs old in November 9, 2015. He was born 3 weeks earlier, smaller than average due to small parents. Since he was born; he have s hard time to sleep before 12 am so I always take him for s drive 45 minutes before he felt to sleep. If let him sleep naturally it will be 1-2 am. He is active and have too much energy. Just want to know if he is an average child. He always curious about things and pay attention to details in the background of TV, book, utube like signs, Symboles, objects…. He was able to point things out over 100 words in the book before 1 yr old. He knows all letters and numbers up to 40 before 1 yr old. He knows all the shapes, colors before age 1.5. At 2 yrs old he knows very well on planets systems. Just ask him anything he would point to the correct one for u. At age 2.2 months he was reading the book and very good at memory. In school, the teacher he was well behave too And teachers like him. He can read a lot more than 5 yrs old all ready. He is now like to read like singing out loud like Tomas train book. As of now, he would be able to tell you the correct spelling about 30 would or more. When I spell out like o r a n g e , hd would say orange. Or o r a n g e s and we would say oranges. He knows the home address as well. This is my first baby boy. He is a bite funny and playful with his mom . Any thoughts if my child is an average in term of learning.

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    1. Hi Saeng,
      I would talk with a developmental psychologist (a child psychologist) about having him IQ tested. My suspicion is that they would encourage you to wait until age four, but I might be wrong depending on what they see while interacting with your son. In the meantime, continue to encourage him to read and enjoy learning. Make sure he’s doing plenty to encourage the other aspects of his development as well. Get him outside to play, help him learn his fine motor skills, toilet train, etc. We want our children to be well rounded at that age, without one skill set eclipsing another. Have fun!

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      1. Thank you for your kind advise And comment Dr Sara. yes, I always taking him to play outside everyday and he loves it. Here is a short clip of my son when he was at 2.3 yrs old. He doesn’t like us to read books for him but he likes to read by himself and just help him out when he needed it.
        http://youtu.be/Tw33rKn5AkI
        http://youtu.be/ZF8txdL7Xsg

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  10. My daughter just turned 17 months old. She recognizes all the alphabet, numbers 1-13, knows 9 shapes, recognizes 10 colors, knows all her animals, does phonics, has an extensive vocabulary, can pick specific books when asked from her bookshelf, loves books and numbers, while driving sees certain letters or numbers and says them …etc . Do you think shes gifted?

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  11. My daughter is almost 3 years old and asked about time yesterday and wanted to see a clock. I showed her what time we eat dinner, bathe, and go to bed. Later that evening when I mentioned it was close to bed time she asked to see the clock again to see what time it was. I don’t think she fully understands but I do think she understood that 8 is bedtime. She also has an extremely long attention span. Around 7-9 months or so she was able to watch full length movies. I didn’t have cable or Internet at the time so I would pop in a dvd to have some background noise. Well she took an interest in a few movies and would watch every minute of them. I have filmed some of this because I thought it was interesting. Anyways just wondering if her curiosity about time around her age is typical or a possible sign of being gifted.

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    1. Hi Lenorah! I like to say that children have limitless curiosity, for better or worse! They want to know about absolutely everything because everything is new to them. Unfortunately, as adults we often rush them through their day without taking the time to answer those questions. Your daughter may be gifted, hard to say on that description alone, but she sure is curious. My advice is nurture that curiosity whenever you can. Read, read, read! Slow down and take the time to answer questions whenever possible. Sounds like you are doing a great job already!

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  12. Well she certainly is very verbal! As some time has passed since your original comment, I’d love to hear how she is doing now? Does she still love books and words in general? Are you considering formal “gifted” testing prior to Kindergarden? Hope all is well!

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  13. My one year old granddaughter is gifted. She said “mom” at three months, That changed to mommy soon after that and daddy was added. Then at seven months as I was feeding her I asked her if she was ready and she repeated, “ready!” By nine months she was speaking in two word sentences. A couple of days before her first birthday she said her first three word sentence, “I wanna help!” Whenever she says something it comes out loud and clear. There is no guess work or putting “words in her mouth.” She no longer repeats things, she comes up with her own phrases, using the proper pronoun and verb. She can also do anything you ask her to do. I once told her it was bedtime and asked if she could get her blanket. It was across the living room. She crawled over to it (yep she doesn’t walk, yet), grabbed it, held it up high and said, “Got it!” She is an absolute blessing to be around! I told my daughter she was going to have to get some ssophisticated toys to keep her from getting bored and frustrated. I don’t know if my daughter believes me or not ☹.

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