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How many activities are too many?

How many activities are too many?

I’m curious how other families decide how many activities to sign their kids up for. Right now we just do swim lessons, but last spring our boys were in two different levels of baseball, all three did soccer, and all three did swim. It was busy and overwhelming at times, but thankfully it was also a short season.
How do you decide how much is too much?

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  1. This is something we’ve been battling at home, too, lately. My oldest wants to do all kinds of things and I always wonder if it is more stressful than exciting for her. She doesn’t complain but it definitely makes weekdays chaotic for the whole family. I can only imagine what your calendar looks like with three kids old enough for activities!

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  2. We talk with our son, he’s 7 and does coach pitch, basketball, and football so all year except the end of may and june and we tell him if we can afford it he can do it if he wants so I think talking and making sure the whole family can handle it would be good.

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    1. The cost of everything is a good point too! It can get expensive, depending on what you get involved in.

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  3. I don’t have a “right” answer for you, and my kids aren’t quite old enough to worry about this yet (although I did contemplate t-ball or soccer this season). But we plan to allow each child to participate in 2 or 3 activities per year. The next year, they can choose new activities or stick with the same ones if they’d rather do that. Although I really want to allow my kids to do what they enjoy and to explore their likes and dislikes, our lives are already crazy enough without worrying about overlapping extracurriculars.

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  4. I love this question! I really think it depends on the child and their age. Some children love to participate in just about anything – they are social, outgoing and energetic. Some like to stay close to home until something really peaks their interest, usually once they are a bit older. One thing is for sure, make sure they have enough unstructured free play during the week to allow for imagination and creativity. For those considering “sports” for their preschoolers, check out this Bundoo article for some tips!
    http://www.bundoo.com/articles/should-your-toddler-play-sports/

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    1. Great tips, especially about making sure there is still time to just PLAY!

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  5. Wow – I am out of breath just reading about your activities, ha ha ha. We have four boys – two of them old enough to do activities. They are both in soccer, but that’s 3-4 times a week EACH – and of course not on the same days! We ask that they each pick one activity – but they HAVE to pick one… I don’t want to over schedule, but I also want to make sure they do something. So it’s a fine line between not enough and then all of a sudden too much. I hear ya loud and clear!

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  6. I think it varies family to family – and the second you feel overcommitted or the kids seem unhappy, it’s time to take stock and cut back somewhere. My son is almost 5 and up until now has not wanted to ever do any classes or sports. He’s just showed some interest, so we’ve signed up for a weekly gymnastics class and also one music class on the weekend. If it seems like too much we will cut back, but I am excited to fill some long afternoons once the dreary weather hits!

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