Need tips to make kids stop hiting others

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Need tips to make kids stop hiting others

Hi moms,my son is 2 1/4 yrs old.. he is hiting others kids while playing.. he is hitting mostly younger kids..we tried to make him understand but he is hitting others even after that.. please let me know any tricks to solve this

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  1. It is important to take your child out of the situation – he may be frustrated. Help him by offering words that he may not yet have – “you are frustrated” “Hitting hurts, we do not hit” “use your words”
    He must be taken away form the grouper a significant period of time – if it is the playground, for example – he has to go home. It does not help to hit him yourself or to make him apologize. He will eventually learn to apologize from you and others in his life. Model the behavior you want to see in your child. And lots of patience.

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    1. Thanks for your suggestion.I have not hit him but still he hits others.I am not sure from where he observed such behavior.Let me try offering him words as you said.

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  2. Have you tried a calm and patient time out? One minute per year so a brief two-minute time out? We’ve been doing this with success. It’s simple but you should put your son in time out right when you see the behavior so he connects the dots between the discipline and the undesired behavior.

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    1. Do I need to put him in the room with door closed for 2 min?or shall I walk out of the place for 2 min when I see such behavior?what should I do if he cries or screams for that 2 min period?

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      1. Typically you just use a chair in the corner of a room where you’re more present but unavailable. So our chair is in an open area of the house so our toddler doesn’t feel abandoned but knows we will not pick her up. Your toddler probably will cry but it’s important to be consistent with the time out. When it is over, reinforce with your words why they were in time out. i.e. “We don’t hit our friends.”

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      2. Did you read this? I read this a while back and it was one of the most helpful timeout articles I’ve read for little ones. http://www.bundoo.com/articles/time-out/

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        1. Thanks.i will follow your suggestion

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  3. Thanks for your suggestion.let me try offering him words as you said.i have not hit him but he still hits others. Iam not sure from where he observed this behavior..

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  4. I do not recommend locking him alone in a room – the is scary and does not teach him empathy. Take him away form the other child. Do not engage with him too much – you do not want this to be a game or a major punishment. He needs time time to reflect and get out of the situation. Again, giving him the words to communicate his emotions will help. You have to do this over and over.

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  5. Thanks Anne.I will follow as per your suggestion

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  6. Hitting is very common at this age. The child does not mean to hurt anyone – hitting is just a way to get attention or to show frustration. Keep calm, remove the child from the situation, and then offer words to express what he may be feeling. For example, if something does not go his way say “that did not go as you expected! how frustrating!”. It takes time and a very calm parent, but the hitting will subside.
    Also, remember at this age that children don’t “share”. When we ask them to share what we really mean is “give your toy to that other kid”. Having ample toys around gives you an opportunity to say, “I know you wanted X, but David has that right now. Here, come play with Y with me until David is ready to give it up.”

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    1. Thanks for the suggestion sara

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  7. Thanks molly..I Ll definitely follow your suggestion

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