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Potty Training Questions?

Potty Training Questions?

I would love to entertain some potty training questions. Bring them on :

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  1. My son turned 2 last month and has been showing signs of being ready to potty train, but I can’t get him to sit still on the potty for more than a few seconds at a time! Pretty much as soon as he sits, he says, “Done! Wipe!” And all he seems interested in is wiping with the toilet paper. Any advice on getting him to sit still long enough to actually GO?

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    1. Kristen,

      Happy Belated Birthday!
      The beauty about potty training ‘season’ is that it is no different then any other seasons in your child’s life therefore it is a journey and learned best in practice.

      What your 2 year old is going through right now is best described as ‘the independent phase’. Soon enough his muscles and body will be strong enough to hold his urine or stools until he actually needs to go.
      At the moment he responds to an urge to go and it is great that he knows where he needs to go, however he is not strong enough to hold and actually release therefore I suggest you give it time and plenty of practice along with lots of liquid and fiber rich foods such as fruits and vegetables.
      You may also get him interested to sit longer by reading potty books such as I Can Potty 1 2 3 and a few others available on Amazon as well as playing hand/eye coordination games such as Patty Cakes.

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  2. Kristen,

    Happy Belated Birthday!
    The beauty about potty training ‘season’ is that it is no different then any other seasons in your child’s life therefore it is a journey and learned best in practice.

    What you 2 year old is going through right now is best described as ‘the independent phase’. Soon enough his muscles and body will be strong enough to hold his urine or stools until he actually needs to go.
    At the moment he responds to an urge to go and it is great that he knows where he needs to go, however he is not strong enough to hold and actually release therefore I suggest you give it time and plenty of practice along with lots of liquid and fiber rich foods such as fruits and vegetables.
    You may also get him interested to sit longer by reading potty books such as I Can Potty 1 2 3 and a few others available on Amazon as well as playing hand/eye coordination games such as Patty Cakes.

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  3. I’ve got one for you Ms. Potty Whisperer. My 2 year old hates poop. So much so that she holds it for days. Won’t go on the potty, in her diaper, pull up….anywhere. She usually wakes in the middle of the night and has a dirty diaper. Since we are nearing 3, I’d like to get this over with! Any ideas? We did Miralax for awhile but that just made her tummy painful and may have made it worse.

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    1. Hi Kristen,
      I once read that you can’t make a child eat and you can’t make them poop, and BOY is that correct! Children withhold stool for several reasons, pain, fear, because they are too busy, and well, just because they don’t want to. The problem with holding for 3 days is that it quickly becomes 5 days then 7 then so on. This eventually results in abdominal cramping, pain when having the bowel movement and staining or leaking into the undies. The body quickly adapts by allowing more and more stool to be held in the rectal vault. The child learns to turn of the body’s signal that it needs to go. It’s a mess. Because your little one is almost 3, you have to work really hard to avoid a power struggle. Keep her stool soft with water, fruits and veg and Miralax if needed. Try to be home around the times you know she “has” to go even if she holds it. See your pediatrician to make sure there is not a physical reason for her holding. Good luck! This is not an easy one so try to remain calm and not let your daughter know how stressed you are by her holding.

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      1. Great advice! We used miralax for over a month and it was causing her to have pain in her tummy. But now without it its quite firm and causing her pain to go. I feel like we are in a vicious circle.

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    2. Kristen – What a painful thing this must be for you as a parent to see your child hurt and often times not know what to do.
      I work with similar clients on a weekly basis in this is what I have discovered:
      Boys tend to do this more than girls because they are more prone to developing encopresis also called stool holding or soiling, occurs when your child resists having bowel movements, causing impacted stool to collect in the colon and rectum.
      To avoid this I suggest the following two things:
      1. Have a water pitcher with pure filtered water sit at room temperature on your counter top and squeeze 1/2 lemon for every 6 oz of water in that pitcher. If possible offer your child to drink about 16 oz by noon and 16 oz by 6 pm. It will promote a bowel movement. In between offer your child as much as possible fruits and vegetables and if your child does not like them puree them and freeze them as popsicles in a mold.
      2. Offer warm baths (warmer) and a tummy massage right after every night.
      I like to tell my little clients that fish or at least some of them eat poop and we need to put it in the toilet for them because the water goes in the ocean. It may be worth retelling the story and bring out some empathy :). Good luck!

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      1. Thank you for these wonderful tips. Unfortunately she will not drink the lemon waters, and instead of popsicles I have added vegs and fruits to smoothies. But we are going on 4 days now. I added miralax yesterday and the good news is she’s sitting on potty and trying to go! She wants to feed the fishies, but no luck yet. Thanks for your help!

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        1. Kristen good luck. Come back and let us know how things go 🙂 you can also find some helpful articles on http://www.pottytrainingservices.com

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  4. My daughter is 2.5 yrs. she’s been potty training for the past couple of months. She does great during the day and rarely has accidents. But for nap time and at night she wets the bed. She has gone at least a week before without wetting the bed and I don’t know what has happened. She is a hard sleeper and doesn’t get out of bed. We stop liquids at least an hour before nap time and 2 hours before bed time. She uses the potty just before laying down. I’m just not sure what else to do. Any help would be amazing!

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    1. Danielle – it sounds to me like your daughter is going through some developmental changes and she is not able to respond to her body’s biological needs.
      She will grow out of it, however if you have used diapers and pull-ups in the past it is possible that she was desensitized and that memory is still there … however to help her grow I suggest you do not offer her any diapers/pull-ups going forward and keep a chart of her accidents, food and drinks. I also suggest you take her off of dairy (mostly non fermented) and see how she does.
      At the times she would normally be wet I suggest you gently wake her and take her to the bathroom. Best wishes.
      Let us know how it goes 🙂

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      1. Thank you for the suggestions! I haven’t ever put her in diapers or pull-ups since potty training, even at bed time. She’s been in straight underwear. The only dairy she ever really gets is yogurts and cheese on occasion. She drinks almond milk. Should I eliminate the yogurt and cheese? We tried waking her before we went to bed once and she acted like a total zombie. I’ll have to try it again though. Thanks again!

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        1. Danielle – sounds to me like you are doing well. Maybe it will not hurt to keep her off dairy completely for about 6 weeks or so, however walking her to the bathroom may be just what she needs.

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          1. Do you have any resources about cutting dairy out for potty training purposes? I’ve heard of doing it before, but I can’t really find online as why it helps. I’m just curious. Thanks! 🙂

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            1. Danielle here is one of the articles I came across :http://www.goodnites.com/bedwetting-education/articles/eat-right-sleep-tight-dietary-triggers-bedwetting.aspx

              I have also done some research with some of my clients over a period of 10 years and I found out that it only affects children who eat a homogenized and pasteurized dairy versus the raw dairy consumers. Interesting right? To me it was.

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  5. My daughter just turned two last month and before that she had been pooping on the potty every time and occasionally peeing. She had been doing that for about 2 months. We weren’t pushing the whole potty thing but we were encouraging it and making her try to pee on the potty a few times a day, now she refuses to do it and gets mad when we try to put her on there to try, and now she won’t even poop in the potty. What can I do to get her interested again? I feel like I missed the boat when I didn’t push it when she was interested. I have even tried giving treats if she goes and she doesn’t care about that anymore either.

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    1. Meghan – I can feel your desperation, however you have plenty of time to get it done. I would like to suggest you ditch the diapers and pull-ups completely. Talk about where the pee and poop goes and continue to allow her to make choices while you gently guide her by making it a lifestyle change. Encourage drinking lots of liquids while at it, she will need to go in no time 🙂

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  6. Is 18 months too early to start potty training? What is the method to start with a girl?

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    1. Wendy – in my world it’s never to early to start potty training. Congratulations on taking that route by asking questions 🙂
      The best method is the most natural one and that is to get a toilet ring/seat for your regular restroom where your daughter knows to naturally or quickly go if nature calls.
      Next I suggest you add more fruits and veggies to her diet to keep her stools soft and coming along with about 32 to 38 oz of water/day.
      If you are so inclined I suggest you ditch the diapers also. have fun!

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  7. All of these q&a are about girls, ive heard boys r harder to train?
    My 17 mo little boy I started to potty train,ive introduced the potty. first time I rushed him to the potty when I saw him makin his im gonna poop face he cried on the potty while going, cryies of being scared holding my hand….
    he doesnt seem to know when he is peeing no grabing, stop of play, nor does he seem to know when hes going poop, I ask and he seems to keep playing, runs away.

    is he too young? How can I get him to acknowledge that ne is peeing/ pooping?

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    1. Amarah thanks for bringing up a boy question. Your 17 month old is just testing the waters, however as you know practice does make better and what I would like to suggest is go for the big potty right the way. Purchase the ring that goes with it, read books, watch clips (you tube), rent a few movies from the library on potty training and just have fun. It’s never to early to potty train a child. I trained infants and they get it right the way. Your child already know when nature calls so have fun during this awesome adventure 🙂 Let us know how it goes.

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  8. My 13 month old son is pulling at his diaper when he pees. He’s been doing this for a few months now. Does it seem like he is ready to be potty trained? He’s not walking yet but he’s trying. Is it too early?

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    1. Katie – It’s great when our children communicate to us isn’t it?
      Yes, looks like he is ready to let you know when a pee pee is about to take place so I suggest you start teaching him the lingo and set him on a potty chair or on the toilet with a fitted ring since he is able to sit. It’s not to early. I potty trained my son by 9 months and my daughter by 4 months.

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  9. My daughter turned two in May and we’ve been slowly beginning to potty train. We have a little potty seat that fits onto our regular toilet seat. The issue is that sometimes when she pees, it goes all over the place. It’ll spray the front of the potty seat and splash all over. Is this normal?? I thought she would be cleaner than her two brothers. Could it be because she ‘pushes’ it out so it’s a more forceful stream? (Oh the things you talk about when you become a parent 😛 )

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    1. Can you teach her to sit further back on the seat or is she already sitting that way?

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      1. Those little potty seats don’t leave a whole lot of room, but she probably could sit at least a little bit farther back (and I can make sure that the seat is as far back as possible). Thanks!

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    2. Lauren – I would like to suggest you use a higher step stool to rest her fit on, ask her to sit back and also to keep her hands on her knees. By doing this it will help her focus and release her urine at a slower rate. You may also want to consider more frequent potty breaks (i.e. 20 minutes after a drink or just about every 2.5 hrs). Great question 🙂

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  10. Our son will be three in two months, goes to school full time and they will not help potty train. I’ve tried charts, gifts, underwear, etc., but he still refuses to tell me when he needs to go, what can I do to get him potty trained over a weekend to at least tell me he has to go potty? I’m frustrated and stressed out with the whole situation.

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    1. It’s really tough when you have a school that won’t help with potty training! Is he showing other signs of readiness?

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      1. Yes. He can go to the bathroom pull up and down his pants by himself. He will tell us after he has used the bathroom or right before when he’s home. We put him in underwear when he’s home but they refuse to at school and he sees pull ups as diapers so it’s a free for all. Jace is very verbal, but once we get him going at home, it’s lost at school.

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        1. Ugh. Do you have any long weekends coming up (Thanksgiving?) where you can really focus for several days in a stretch? Also, is this a known policy for the school? Wondering how other parents cope without their help.

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          1. We travel for Thanksgiving but I’m thinking of keeping him home for a few days to get him going. Other parents aren’t as concerned about it. He’s our third child and the first time we haven’t had help from his school. It is the policy at the school but I’m having a meeting with the principal today to discuss it.

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            1. Hope your meeting goes well and that they’re willing to help!

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    2. Melissa – first I would like to thank you for posting. It must be so difficult to go through this milestone and not see the light at the end of the tunnel.
      In my journey as a professional potty trainer I developed a plan called ‘the event based trainee’. I would like to suggest you use it.
      Your child is at an age where he most likely has some kind of rhythm or routine to his day.
      It sounds to me as though you are raising a leader, someone that likes to do things on his own terms and who may like to call the shots down the road.
      This is where you as a mom can come in and simply be the announcer. Instead of him telling you when he needs to go, you take that role. By now he learned to hold it to the point that he can simply go on the floor when he is preoccupied.

      I suggest you develop a routine around his schedule. (i.e. morning routine = potty time, on the way out the door =potty break, when arriving home or leaving a facility = potty break, etc…)

      I hope this helps.

      The Potty Whisperer

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  11. Hi. My son is 25 months old and I am planning to seriously potty train . I am making him to sit on potty seat for few months. Whenever he get pee/poop and if I make him sit, he does his job. I have a chart to place some stickers for his good job. But it seems he doesn’t know that he s getting it until it is time to go. He only say maa poo poo after he done on his diapers. He hold his pee for 1.5 to 2 hours. Sometimes more than that. So I guess he got good bladder control. Sometimes he happily sit on potty seat and sometimes he cry & doesn’t want to sit. Few months before he wake up dry and I make him to pee on potty, But now-a-days he is waking up wet most of the times. It is that I need to stay near him and rush him to potty the second he wake up from sleep which is not possible daily. Can I start training with a schedule or do I need to wait few weeks or months?

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  12. my 7 yr old was a late at successfully being potty trained .
    age 4 to be exact and never stopped bed wetting. now he
    seems to be back sliding during the day again 3 or 4 daytime
    accidents a week. should I put him back in diapers during
    the day again and try to re potty train him or is that as silly
    as it sounds

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    1. This is not a silly question. In fact, I’m concerned that there may be something medically wrong with your child. Daytime accidents after successful toilet training are cause for concern. They can be behavioral, of course. But they can also signal something more serious such as Type 1 Diabetes or a urinary tract infection. I recommend you see your pediatrician right away.

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      1. we have couldn’t find any reason why

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