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So, I’m in the process of trying to potty train my son. We have tried pull ups, cloth and plastic underwear, or both together to not make a mess. However, my son is very stubborn! He will not care one week and then the next he will be using the pot, getting his stickers and getting his potty prizes, along with either holding his pee till he gets to a bathroom or telling us he has to use the potty and go poop. He absolutely hates pooping on the pop, which is where most the problem lies. He says it hurts his butt. I know he is coming around but I wanna make it easier on him if it does hurt. Any ideas would help out so much! Half the time, or rather more than half, he just doesn’t care nor want to. We keep a scheduled routine with him, as I know is vital and so is not giving up and keeping at it, but it doesn’t seem to make much of a difference most of the time. He is very smart and wants to be a big boy and knows what that entails but doesn’t wanna poop on the pot all that well. He is 3 and I have a niece who is way past the age of diapers and is giving my sister and brother in law problems with potty training. I fear he will go down that road if I don’t do something and stick to it. My son, Ethan, is so smart but so stubborn at the same time! Lol

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  1. Hi Rebecca! I am sure some other potty training experts will come along with good advice, but as a mom who’s been down this road with a little boy I can say the best thing I ever did was not force the issue. My little one is also very smart and spirited and in the end, I realized he was in control of this – not me. So we’d talk about the potty and have a potty and seat for the regular toilet available, but overall I backed off. Then one day he woke up and he was done with diapers for peeing, followed by pooping a few months later, between the ages of 3 and 4. I seriously never did any “training” other than offering options, not making it stressful, and waiting knowing that there are no 18 year olds who can’t use the toilet 🙂 So backing off and de-emphasizing it for a while might be what he needs at this moment if that feels right for you. Good luck in whatever you do!

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  2. I know messes aren’t fun, but have you tried going cold turkey to underwear alone?

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    1. This is just what we did at our house too. The first few days were rough, but in the end it was well worth it. It’s worth a shot! Good luck!

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    2. This worked for my boys! Took a few days of staying home close to the potty but they figured things out pretty quickly. Of course this was after they showed all the signs of being ready to be done with diapers. If you try to force potty training, it will only backfire!

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  3. I agree with Dr. Lincoln. I would add that “poop” training often follows a different path than “pee”. Some kids do one months before the other. It’s also very important to make sure that constipation is not at all an issue. The poop needs to be very soft so that it’s easy and comfortable to pass it. Also remember that a traditional toilet can be scary for children. Letting them squat and go on newspaper on the floor or into a small training toilet can help with fears. It’s also important that their feet be firmly on a stool to get their body on a good position to have a BM. Imagine, trying to go with your feet and legs dangling over an edge…not easy!

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