She Called Me a "Loser" & Other Lovely School Habits

She Called Me a "Loser" & Other Lovely School Habits

It happened. My daughter started school and picked up the lovely phrases: “You’re a meanie!” and better yet told me and her little sister, “you’re losers!”
Obviously this isn’t going to fly. Any suggestions on how to curb these bad habits our kids pick up at school?

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  1. I am in the same boat. I have noticed that my daughter is picking up on some bad behaviors at school and now she likes to tell me, “I don’t like you” while she points her finger at me! : / ….
    I am not too sure how much you can really do since you aren’t there to stop the behavior that is being shown to your child and you never really know how much the teacher sees to stop it. My only suggestion is to maybe contact the teacher to look out for the behavior so she can reprimand it when it happens.

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    1. Good advice, thanks!

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  2. Yup, there is nothing you can do to stop the exposure at school. Obviously homeschooling is an option but then your kid grows up weird and unsocialized (yeah I said it folks). Think back to college, you could always pick out the homeschooled people… Anyway, my daughter was trying to get a cat on the street to come over and when it didn’t, she said “that stupid cat!” Stupid is not a word that flies in our house so I asked where she heard it, and sure enough, a friend at school. I think we just have to keep on top of reminding them and fostering good behavior; mainly though our own actions.

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    1. yeah – you said it! And I agree, modeling behavior is the right way to go, but she def can’t tell me I’m a loser! There have to be consequences right? And as for home school, I considered it, there are pros and cons to everything!

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  3. Oh I don’t look forward to this. As a kid knew certain things weren’t allowed to be said at home – so maybe just tell them “I know your friends talk that way, but in this house we don’t speak like that” may work??

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    1. I said that almost verbatim, and she said “you’re a meanie!”, timeout ensued. Sigh. This wasn’t in the What To Expect Book, I’m sure!

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    2. I feel like I say that at least once a day, generally in reference to words like “poopy face.”

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  4. It’s inevitable. Eventually our children are exposed to influences outside of our home. And they are going to bring those home for us to enjoy. The first thing you’ll need is patience. The things they can say will likely be frustrating and shocking. Once you pick your jaw up off the floor, you will need to quickly address the comment, reinforce what has already been taught, or be ready to set new boundaries of appropriateness. It’s imperative to communicate with our kids often and openly. That’s the best way to catch the things they will inevitably pick up from school and peers. Catch it quickly and give an appropriate come back. Try not to use shame and fear. We want them to dialog with us openly about what they are picking in school. If they start to feel bad about it they could filter what they share with you.

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    1. yes! Great advice!

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