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Stay at home Dads

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Stay at home Dads

I recently heard that many dads that stay at home with the kiddies are often ridiculed and harassed for their chosen profession. I say “profession” because it takes more patience, concentration, and pure guts to stay at home with the kids than it does to work away from the home. Have you ever been the only parent while your wife was out of town for a week or even just a weekend? Sure, if you want to be a slob and just play all day it’s fun. But then can you actually call yourself a real man if you let your wife come home to a messy house and expect her to clean it when you are the one at home all day? We live in a society where both men and women can have successful working careers, so both men and women should also be able to take care of the home and children. I’d just like to say to all the moms and dads out there who stay at home with the kids, and actually take care of the entire house; “great job and thank you!”

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  1. My wife and I have been having this discussion for a long time, because I suspect we’re not the norm even though things are changing. Like a lot of people, I was raised with pretty set gender expectations: dad worked, mom didn’t, dad came home every day at 6:30, had a scotch with bitters, read the paper, then we ate, then he was off to watch the news and do it all over again. It worked for the times. But when we had our first son … that just didn’t fit, and it never really has. We split childcare pretty much equally–we’ve both changed our working schedules to work around the kids, so Mom or Dad is always home and around and both of us still have professional careers. I do all the cooking (by preference, because I like to cook and she doesn’t), and since we both hate cleaning, we suffer through it together on ritualistic “cleaning days.” I think for us at least, it wasn’t really acceptable to either of us not to work in some capacity–we both love our work–but really, the first priority has always been working together as parents, so if that means turning down jobs or working weird hours so I can wait in the playground to pick my son up or so she can volunteer in his class every week, then so be it.

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