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Dr. Sara’s baby story

This mama celebrated a big milestone recently. My oldest “baby” turned five. FIVE! I still cannot believe it. I swear that it was just yesterday that I brought him home, nervous and terrified. Now he’s a little boy, running and playing and learning to read. Unbelievable.

Leading up to his birthday, I told him his “baby story” each night as I tucked him into bed. In short, a “baby story” is the story of the 24 hours or so leading up to and ending in his birth. I go through the start of labor by telling him that I felt him knocking on my belly. I recount being in major labor denial, talking to my big belly and telling him to quiet down. He loves the part where I feed him a HUGE amount of pancakes before going to the hospital as I was sure they would starve us once I got there. The story ends with “the most beautiful baby I have ever seen” in my arms, smiling.

Children love, love, love to hear the story of their birthday. They love the idea that they were anticipated and that everyone was thrilled at their arrival. They love the funny parts and the parts where you tell them exactly how big they were. They love that while they cannot remember it, that you do and that you tell it the same way over and over and over.

Sure, not every birth story is perfect.You leave out the painful, or messy, or scary parts and exchange them for the excitement, anticipation, and joy of that day. If your child is adopted or fostered or a step child you can re-create this story with the first time you met or the day you became a family. The sentiment is the same. Trust me, telling these stories is an amazing way to connect with your child. It will make both of you feel loved and important.

PS: The “baby story” is just one example of an “I Love You Ritual.” Dr. Becky Bailey has a fabulous book by the same name full of little meaningful ways to connect with your children. I use a few of her rituals frequently in my own home and teach a few to my patients as well. Check it out.

 

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About Dr. Sara Connolly, Bundoo Medical Director

Sara Connolly is a Bundoo Pediatrician who practices in South Florida.

Comments

  1. Oh Kristen! I’m sorry if there was pain and scary stuff. Just tell him how his arrival made your heart feel. He will love it. Get ready to tell it over and over and over!

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  2. I LOVE this idea! I’ll have to do a lot of tweaking because I seem to remember a lot of the pain and scary stuff, but I’m sure I can make it work! 😉

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  3. We read stories to our daughter every night, but I have never thought of telling her about her “birth story.” Wonderful idea!

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  4. What a wonderful article. 🙂 My oldest will be turning 5 in May (wow, I know right Dr. Connolly?!). I am going to share his birth story with him tonight! I’ve never told him and he’s been actually asking a lot about when he was in my tummy or when I was in Nana’s tummy, etc. I look forward to telling him!

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