Mindfulness for Moms

I want to talk about mindfulness. You’ve probably heard of mindfulness before, but I want to talk about it in the context of desire. 

Mindfulness helps us close the twenty tabs that are open in our brains all the time. For me, those can be really distracting when I’m with my kids or when I’m at work or when I’m trying to be intimate.

Mindfulness helps us to shut down all those tabs and focus only on what’s happening in the moment. It’s super important to regaining your desire.

It may sound like mindfulness is a big thing like fitness, or something we might not be able to accomplish, but actually, it’s really easy. The way I practice is through an app I downloaded. My favorite one is called Simple Habit. My husband uses Headspace. There are literally hundreds, so just pick one and go with it.

After you open the app, don’t spend a lot of time making decisions. Just press start. They’ll ask you to give them five or ten minutes to clear your brain. You’ll take some big, deep breaths, and you’ll leave the session feeling more relaxed and more focused on what’s happening in the present moment.

This can help with more than just desire and intimacy. This can help us with anxiety, depression, and insomnia. It can be so valuable in so many ways.

It might be difficult at first, but I promise it gets easier over time. I try to practice mindfulness every day. After I get my kids to bed, clean up the kitchen, and get everything done, I run a warm bath. This time of day is just for me. Then I press start on my app and give it five or ten minutes. I deep breathe and just let all the thoughts running through my head fall off. That helps me to be really present in the moment and appreciative for what we have going on.

I challenge you to do the same. Maybe it’s after your kids have gone to bed, maybe it’s first thing in the morning before the house gets busy, or maybe it’s on your lunch break. But all it takes is five or ten minutes. So give it a shot.

If you’re interested in learning more about mindfulness, check out the sessions part of the Rosy App. Dr. Laurie Mintz, a psychologist, has some great insights and tips and tricks to help you really master the skill. This is easy and approachable. It just takes a couple of minutes that can help you with so many things, including regaining your desire. Get started on mindfulness today.