The three week rule
My Bundoo babies are returning to school this week. At ages six and eight, they no longer provide daily ideas for my blogs for you, Bundoo parents. We are long since done with diapers, picky toddler eating, and even temper tantrums. They are “big kids,” leaving for school with full backpacks and lunch boxes. They are wonderful little people.
Maybe because of the time of year, I’ve been reflecting on the earlier years of my children’s lives. Those first years, and in particular the first year were so full of challenges as a parent. There is the initial worry about a child’s overall survival—can I physically nurse my infant, should I nurse him, how much should he be eating, how would I know he is growing well? Once those first weeks are done, there becomes a nearly endless series of questions, phases, and doubts.
Bundoo’s goal has always been to provide clear answers as often as possible to as many questions you ask us about pregnancy, birth, and the first several years of your child’s life. Even as a pediatrician, I needed and requested advice about parenting my young children. Like you, I sought answers to questions from experts and fellow parents. Perhaps the best piece of advice I received the first year of my son’s life was this: “This first year—nearly every challenge is a phase and most of those last about three weeks. Sometimes, just waiting it out makes it better.”
It’s true. Here’s a great example. Some of us can relate to the first few weeks our baby can roll from back to tummy. It’s a fun trick, except in the middle of the night when they do it accidentally and wake themselves upset. Many a parent has spent several sleepless weeks turning their angry babies back onto their backs. Same with the baby who loves his pacifier but is too young to reach out and find it when it falls out at night.
Those weeks are tough, but limited. By the time you work out every possible “solution,” the kid figures out how to flip back over or to reach for that pacifier. It was a phase, and one without a concrete answer.
Of course, I’m making a generalization. Parents need to trust their gut when it’s telling them that something is really wrong. Aside from that however, sometimes time is the only thing that is required to solve an issue. Time to grow, time to mature, time to settle into a new routine. Babies change so fast, sometimes we have trouble keeping up. Most problems won’t last forever, in fact, most will only last three weeks. Hang in there parents of little ones, the cliché’ is true—long days, short years.