Why you shouldn’t pick a hairdresser before you grow hair
Before I get myself in trouble, let me just state that I LOVE talking with pregnant parents. Really! I love discussing their concerns, sharing their excitement, and helping them plan for the arrival of their baby. Especially, when they are expecting their first child, pregnant people are so excited and happy, and I find it delightful that they are planning so carefully for their unborn baby. The love that is already there is palpable.
So don’t judge me too much when I say what I am about to say. Picking a pediatrician before you have the baby is like picking a hair stylist before you grow hair. What I mean is, don’t get too hung up on the doctor you chose before the baby arrives. They might not be the best fit once your child is actually here. I know all the books and websites discuss the prenatal visit and all of the questions to ask. And, like I said, the visits are actually really fun for me. But I cannot guarantee the doctor who seems so great before baby will be the best match after.
Our pre-parent selves are often quite different from our parent selves. As parents, we may think we will be relaxed but instead are total worriers when it comes to kids. We may be too relaxed and have a lot to learn. We may need a doctor who will calm us, or motivate us, or one who specializes in a certain area of pediatrics. We might want one who fusses over every little detail or a pediatrician who is better at the big picture. Before we have kids, we just don’t know.
So, go to your prenatal visit. Ask about hours of operation, if they will be in the hospital when you deliver, do they have a lactation consultant on staff, who to call if you have a question or a problem; ask all of the things that you are supposed to ask. After baby arrives, feel free to change your mind. If the first doc isn’t a good fit, try another and another until you feel a connection. You and your child’s doctor are a team. You both want to raise the healthiest child possible, so find once that feels like a teammate. Don’t be that person who stays with the same hair stylist for years just because they were the first one you tried.